I want to talk about the FIRST DATE with a woman, as I see far too many “horror” stories when it comes to this from Vancouver Singles.

First things first.  NEVER do the typical “dinner and a movie” date.  If you do, I will kick you in the nuts!

For Vancouver Dating – before you set up the date with a woman, you need to ask yourself “What is my outcome?”

Is your outcome to have a long-term relationship or just to hook up?

Either way, you want to escalate things with women as fast as possible to avoid being stuck as “the friend” or not getting anywhere.

The longer you wait to escalate with a woman, the WEIRDER it gets.

If you’re going for a kiss with a woman by the 5th date, then the chances are you will be getting shut down and you’ve already established yourself as “the friend.”

Let’s avoid this all together with the Vancouver Dating scene.

To have a successful date, you must have a GAME PLAN.

You need to be the leader.  The one in charge.

You need to know where you are going and how things are going to play out.

I will share with you my typical Vancouver date.

First, I always have them to meet up in the evening (anytime between 6-9PM).

I never set up dates if there is going to be a “time constraint” and we can only hang out for an hour.  I want the date to go as long as possible without hearing “I have to go now…” just as things are getting good.

So that’s why I plan for the evening, so there is the potential to hang out for several hours if necessary.

You also don’t want to do too late, as then you might hear the “I have to wake up early for work.”

But, depending if you want to hook up THAT NIGHT or in the next few dates, that is generally up to you.

I usually end up “taking things to the bedroom” on the first date and sometimes the second or third.  It’s rare for me to ever “wait” before sex.  I know some guys who end up waiting MONTHS…

I’m not sure if I could do that.

Anyway, when I set up the date I always give them a location.

You want the date to be on YOUR TERRITORY.  In an area that you know.

It’s rare that I go out to her territory, but sometimes I do.  It’s easy for me because I live downtown here in Vancouver, which gives me lots of options for Vancouver Dating.

I also rarely tell them what we’re going to do.  I don’t tell them “we’re going to do XYZ and then XYZ and then XYZ…”

I like to surprise them and have them guessing.  I like to “live in the moment” and just enjoy things.  Plus I don’t want to make the date out to be this BIG THING… instead, I make it really low-key.  This makes her feel comfortable.

Nobody wants to commit to doing all these things with someone they don’t even know.

That’s why it’s important to present it as, “Let’s just hang out for a bit…”

Okay, back to it.

I usually end up giving them a neutral location.  Like a coffee shop or somewhere that is public.  This will also make her feel safe and comfortable.

Once I meet her at the coffee shop, I ALWAYS give her a hug and begin the date in a fun, positive emotional state.  I’m feeling confident and really good.

It’s important to make sure you’re ON.  This will set up the date the way that you want it to.

If necessary, get yourself in the right state before the date.  Jump up and down at your house before get there or get pumped up in your car on the way.

Once at the coffee shop, we usually end up going for a walk.  I rarely sit down and have a coffee with them.  Sitting across from someone can be awkward and uncomfortable.  I prefer to keep moving.

So, go for a nice walk.  Talk and get to know each other.  Joke around and have fun.

I usually go for a walk near the beach, the water, or during the busy part of the city here in Vancouver.

At a certain point, we both get hungry.  So I say, “I know this amazing place, let’s go here.”

I then take her to a restaurant that I like.

Since I’m vegetarian, it’s usually a really healthy place.

Sometimes we walk there or drive.

When we get there, it’s now EASY to sit down and talk to her.

I always make sure that I can sit NEXT to her if possible.  I avoid sitting across from each other.

When a woman is across from you, it makes things harder to escalate or to touch her.  I want her as close as possible to me.

But, if I can’t make that happen, it’s okay.

During dinner, the energy changes and this is my opportunity to connect with her more and get to know her.  The conversation turns more “serious” and connection-building.

When it comes to the bill, sometimes I end up paying.

Any time that I do pay for dinner, I will always say “You get the next one…” assuming that we are going to be going out again.

Sometimes she will offer to pay half, which is no problem.

And in many cases, I’ve had women buy me dinner.

I never end up going to really expenses restaraunt with them that this is a big deal for me.

I’ve had times when I’ve ONLY split the bill and told them that, which is okay too.  Whatever your preference is, it’s up to you.

Next, we usually go somewhere for drinks or some place to chill.

Sometimes I will take them to the beach where we can walk and sit down somewhere.  Other times we will go to a bar or a lounge where we can further talk or have some drinks.  Other times we will go back to my place and watch a movie or have drinks there.

Whatever it is for you, KNOW what you’re going to do.

Have this game plan and these options in advance.

It’s at this time of the night that I take things to the kiss and escalate things a lot more.

There will usually be hand holding at this point and we’ll be a lot closer together.

For the kiss, I will explain more of that in a future e-mail.

After that, it’s always leading them back to my apartment.

When I’m back there, things have now escalated beyond the kiss and now I have the choice if I want to take things into the bedroom.

I’m not here to tell you what is morally right or wrong… it is really YOUR choice.

If you don’t want to move things that fast, that’s fine.  I’m not saying that you do.  But this e-mail is illustrating my typical “date” with a woman.

This is a date that I’ve done many times.  It’s up to you to create your own and to get experience doing it over and over again so that you feel confident with it.

The more dates that you go on, the better you will get.

You won’t feel as nervous or worried about what to do next.  You will have EXPERIENCE!

I encourage you to go out and get AS MANY DATES AS POSSIBLE.  Get the experience, because it will help you find that IDEAL WOMAN and to be able to have the success that you want more consistently.

EXPERIENCE is key.

Keep learning, growing, and taking action on this stuff.

If you want to fast-track your results, then be sure to check out the Vancouver Dating – Dating Mastery Seminars every Thursday.

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Hope this helped!  Until next time…

Stefan

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